Are you one of the many Bible-defined Christian singles looking for your life's partner? Are you involved in Christian dating? As a professing Christian single do you put the message of the Bible first and foremost? If so, this important 10 point message may prevent you from ruining your earthly life here and going to hell after death. (If you are not interested in what the Bible says, then stop now and read no more. This message is for the children of God who want God's truth for Christian singles and on Christian dating.)
If you are a Christian single, make sure you marry only another Christian. Never settle for anyone less than a child of God. To marry a non-Christian, that is, a child of the devil, is to have Satan as your spiritual father-in-law. This spells big trouble!
When involved in Christian dating and trying to locate a potential Christian for your life’s partner, evaluate him or her by his or her heart, not their physical appearance, how charming they are, how much money they have, etc. Since God does everything right and he looks on the heart of man, then we should exalt that as most important too. Also, remember some very handsome men and beautiful women have had wicked hearts, as shown even in the Bible with Absalom (a man) and Bathsheba (a woman).
Please remember as painful as loneliness can be for a Christian single, such a condition is far better than marrying the wrong person. Make no mistake about it, if you marry the wrong person, that person can easily ruin your life here and drag you to hell with them beyond the grave. Without a doubt, the person you marry will influence you spiritually either in a good or bad way. Hence, an unsaved spouse probably will, at least, severely hurt you spiritually, if not destroy your salvation.
I personally know people who have made this tragic mistake and have suffered incredibly in many ways, especially spiritually. Certainly, none of them thought it would ever turn out to be so bad as it did. Hence, as a Christian single, don't follow their sad example. The same could (and probably will) happen to you.
The Devil has and still is tempting Christian singles with a potential spouse that is not right for him or her, or one that is not a real Christian at all. It only makes spiritual sense that he would do this since his chief goal is to destroy souls. He can also manipulate circumstances and people at times, according to the Book of Job. Be sure the devil will have some of his children attend the same so-called Christian single events that you do—so be on your guard! Be selective before you get involved in Christian dating. This is a warning that Christian singles need to take to heart.
As a Christian single, keep serving the Lord Jesus faithfully as you wait for the right person to come into your life. Keep your main focus in sight, namely being faithful to the Lord Jesus. In heaven there will be no marriages. Also, Isaac was forty before he got married (Gen. 25:20) and some great men and women of God have never gotten married. The Lord himself was never married.
Make sure you marry a Christian single who is Scripturally eligible for marriage. In other words, many so-called Christian singles are not really single in God’s eyes! They are actually still married to their ‘divorced’ spouse even though the apostate churches of our hour might not recognize this fact and wrongly consider them single. To enter into such an adulterous relationship in God's eyes, through a so-called 'marriage' is spiritually destructive. You will always be safe from this to marry a Christian single who has never been married before or one whose spouse has died. That is the ONLY WAY you should proceed.
Too many church people, including Christian singles, take marriage far too lightly. Remember the law of marriage as taught by the Apostle Paul. In Rom. 7:2,3 we read:
By law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man.
This means you must be with this person until death. Is that how you, as a Christian single, look at your potential spouse? If not, then don’t marry him or her. Do that person and yourself both a favor and end your relationship before getting married.
If you find a Christian single who is eligible for marriage and you have peace about it, make sure you have no sexual contact before you are married. To become sexually united before, even though you both love each other, is to place both you and your loved one on the road to hell again. (Please know there is no eternal security. Do not be deceived by the false teachers of our day.)
Be self-controlled and conduct yourself in a holy manner. Remember: The best thing you can ever do for your potential life’s mate is to help him/her out spiritually. Hence, your conduct and doctrine are both very important.
Do not marry a person who merely professes to be a Christian, but Biblically isn’t. Many people say “Lord, Lord” but are actually evildoers, according to Mt. 7:21-23. Such have not crucified their sinful natures and are, therefore, excluded from God’s salvation, according to Gal. 5:24. Other evildoers could have been Christian at one past point (2 Pet. 2:20-22; James 5:19,20; etc.). Such people may be popular, wealthy, intelligent, handsome, etc. The question is: Is he/she Obeying the Lord Jesus now?
To be a Christian now, one must have a trusting and submitting faith in the Lord Jesus. Jesus must be followed and trusted in 100% for Salvation—and not Jesus AND something or someone else like Mary, church membership, keeping the Saturday Sabbath, water baptism, etc. This means, don't marry a professing Christian single who is believing wrongly in these areas or one who believes in eternal security, even though they may seem extremely sincere. Unsaved people can be very sincere and zealous. (Eternal Security is a False Gospel, 1 Cor. 15:2; Col. 1:22,23, Gal. 1:8, Jude 3,4, etc.)
People who believe dangerous false doctrines about salvation will only prove to be a snare to your soul, unless they truly get their doctrines straight. If they don’t go by the Bible alone for spiritual truth, don’t marry them.
Never forget: Your most valuable possession is your eternal SOUL. Don’t ever jeopardize it for anything or anyone. Keep your main focus in sight always, that is, getting into God’s paradise kingdom. Something infinitely worse than never getting married is ending up in hell.
GOD BLESS YOU.
P.S. To be stirred about how Christian singles can be tempted with disastrous end results, click What The Devil Won't Tell You When He Tempts You
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