(Bible Question) I have a situation where I am seeking advice. I was married to a man for 14 years. Our marriage ended in divorce because of an affair I had... My husband later admitted that I should have divorced him years prior because of his ways with women (always lusting and cat calls etc.). I was saved as a child, but obviously became a backslider throughout the years. I grew up in a home believing in once saved always saved etc. Yes, a true mess from the beginning. I have finally found truth and I share it to all I can. Yes, I am thrown to the wolves half of the time and have been denounced by my own family because of truth. Although it hurts...it is expected....My turmoil comes to this... in order for me to be able to go to heaven even after a full repentance would I need to divorce my husband now? I cannot do anything about my past, but I can my future. It is difficult to get the correct answers because many advocate divorce and yet I know God dislikes divorce. I have prayed about this and with the spiritual warfare going on at present I have been receiving the no, do not divorce and then yes, divorce him. I have sought out advice from a member of clergy and he told me that I cannot change the past, but stay married and make sure I fully repent of my past marriages. Can you give me advice in this area? Again, thank you so much for your time. God be with you always.
(Bible Answer) I do NOT have all the answers about this whole divorce and remarriage mess, but in my understanding, because you were the guilty party (being the cause as an adulteress), you cannot remarry. There are no Scriptures which would allow for that as long as your husband is alive. Hence, you have continued to commit adultery over the years as have the others, who were/are married to you. It is true that God hates divorce, but he also hates adultery. No sin or person is worth going to hell over.
(Comment) Have you ever heard of the Pharasies in the Bible? They were so “holy” that they were no good to the Kingdom. You have a “religious spirit” from the devil.... You are obviously very narrow minded and don’t understand His grace. I feel sorry for you.
(Bible Answer) Greetings in Jesus’ name. The Pharisees were not “holy” and they were not benefitting God’s “kingdom.” Instead, they were religious unsaved people who were filled with wickedness and hypocrisy (Mt. 23:27,28). You have labeled us with several untrue and unscriptural things. We are none of them. With God’s help, we have helped many realize what Biblical “grace” is and how it has no connection with the myth of eternal security. We believe like Paul, the real “grace” teacher. You are the one who doesn’t:
For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a man is an idolater—as any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. Therefore do not be partners with them. (Eph 5:5-7)
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(Comment) Hi, I read your article on Mary and how she’s not the mother of the Church. I was just wondering why you seem to dislike her so much. I can understand not believing that she’s the mother of the Church, but there seems to be such strong feelings against anything good being said about her. Do you truly believe that she’s “just a woman”? How can you say this about a woman who contained the divine within her womb? She bore divinity. She brought God into this world. She must have been extraordinary for God to choose her to be the one through whom God would enter the world! You may think I worship Mary as God because I’m Catholic, but I don’t. However, revering her as the greatest human creature is not idolatry. Just know that the more you love Mary, the more you love Jesus. Mary’s greatest desire is that you love her son. We Christians all want the same thing - to love Jesus as best as we can. The point of differentiation is how to do this. My Bible Answer: you love the Son by loving His mother. It pleases Jesus so much when we honor His mother. So even if you don’t and won’t accept the fact that Mary is the mother of the Church, at least have a special love for her in your heart. Also, you quoted this scripture passage:
While Jesus was saying these things, one of the women in the crowd raised her voice and said to Him, “Blessed is the womb that bore You and the breasts at which You nursed.” But He said, “On the contrary, blessed are those who hear the word of God and observe it.”
...Actually, if you think about it, who better “hears the word of God and observes it” better than Mary? By saying this, Jesus really was saying, “Yes, blessed is Mary. But I want you to know that blood ties are not as strong as the ties made through baptism.” What Jesus is doing is establishing the supremacy of his covenantal relationship with us over blood relationship.
Also, be careful when you speak of Jesus’ “brothers and sisters” as meaning blood relatives. The word for brother used in the bible is actually adelphos in the Greek, which meant blood relative, friend, or even someone who lived in your village or neighboring area. This word adelphos is also used to describe the relationship between Abraham and Lot, and we know that they are not brothers. Anyway, I will pray for your continual growth in your relationship with the Lord. Please pray for me as well. Have a wonderful day.
(Bible Answer) Greetings in Jesus’ name. Thank you for sharing your heart about the Mary you were taught, that is, the Mary of Catholicism. Our most basic point on this issue is: the Mary of Catholicism is not the Mary of the Bible. The Mary of Catholicism has been exalted to such a degree that multitudes have and are still trusting in her for their salvation. If you disagree with this please read Augustine’s prayer to Mary for his salvation and what the Catholic saint and doctor, Alphonsus Liguori wrote.
What Augustine and Liguori believed and what you think are basically identical. The Bible not only states that to be in error, but poisonous and deadly. As a former Catholic I can humbly tell you that type of teaching will damn a person to hell, if believed. It is only out of love for your soul that we speak like this. The Mary of the Bible is my spiritual sister, not my mother. Jesus said John the Baptist was the greatest born of woman, with no mention of his mother (Mt. 11:11). Hence, you have been taught wrongly about him too.
Furthermore, the Lord Jesus was clear and precise with his public rebuke and correction of the woman who wanted to exalt his mother because she gave birth to and nursed him (Luke 11:27,28):
As Jesus was saying these things, a woman in the crowd called out, “Blessed is the mother who gave you birth and nursed you.” He replied, “Blessed rather are those who hear the word of God and obey it.”
What that deceived woman said is essentially the same exact message as your beliefs. Jesus corrected her and wanted others to openly know such is false. Hence, the Lord didn’t have the kind of fantasies you have about Mary’s importance. How can you read what Jesus spoke by way of correction to the woman of Luke 11:27 and remain the same? You are holding on to unscriptural beliefs you were taught thinking they are true when they are poison. It is to your own eternal harm and the eternal harm of the people you love the most to remain unchanged. The mythical Mary of Catholicism has been so exalted that you think:
Just know that the more you love Mary, the more you love Jesus.
That is not what Jesus taught about loving him. Here is the truth:
If you love me, you will obey what I command. (John 14:15)
Obedience to Jesus’ commands is how we show our love to Jesus. He never commanded us to honor Mary. Please search the Scriptures for yourself. Of course, the Catholic church defines honor for Mary to be venerate, trust, pray to, kiss statues of her, etc. Sometimes this is confused by the Old Testament scripture found in Exodus 20:12 about honoring one’s natural mother and father, but that can’t be relevant for us since Mary is not our natural mother. Moreover, had the Jews who kept that command of honoring their mother and father trusted in or bowed before and kissed a statue of either, they would have committed idolatry. Do not be deceived.
The fabricated Mary of Catholicism is supposed to be the sinless, queen of heaven who is reigning with Jesus there, the hope of sinners, mediatrix and dispenser of all graces, our life, our sweetness, our hope, the way to God, our refuge, etc. All of this is pure poison for your soul. We do not dislike the real Mary, but we are repulsed at the counterfeit Mary, who people are wrongly trusting in instead of Jesus. The best way for you to know the truth is to read and believe the New Testament. Do that without other books or pre-conceived ideas, combined with a willingness to change accordingly. It takes humility to change, but God exalts the humble. You cannot be wrong to go by the Bible. You have to be right to go only by Scripture. Do yourself a favor and those you love the most— go only by the Bible (2 Tim. 3:16,17). BTW, Mary was not a virgin when she died. Our book, Is This The Mary of The Bible? can help you much. GOD BLESS YOU.
(Comment) Thanks for the Bible answers. I enjoy reading them and passing them on. I have also read most of your book on Conditional Security and must say that I see that you speak Biblical truth. Calvinism has really wrecked the “modern” church as far as I am concerned. Fortunately there are still a few of us Pastors, Chaplains, writers and others who proclaim God’s saving truth. Be encouraged in Christ! Thanks for your ministry of proclamation. Blessings,
(Bible Answer) Greetings in Jesus’ name. Thanks for the kind words. YES you are absolutely right—Calvinism is the ruination of the modern church and many SOULS. For the most part, the so-called “church” of today is a cheap apostate counterfeit. Oftentimes, more HARM is done in the so-called churches than good by their doctrine and poor example. But there are still a few who fear God and are serious about following the Lord Jesus to the end for salvation’s sake (Mt. 10:22). Christians must learn to feed themselves spiritually and encourage themselves in the Lord. Often there are no others around who care or can do these. MANY SOULS are perishing in our day. It is a horrible time. May God bless and help you as you strive to serve him. Heb. 3:14.
(Comment) I thank God for your ministry. As I was in the ___ coast visiting home, I went to a church who’s preacher is known about finding “our purpose” and realized why my family say they are Christians and still living in sin. In their believe statement, they ask the question “Can you lose your salvation”. This pastor says “no”. Again, I thank God for your ministry. I know why now my family live in sin, as I was doing until I realized, I want to please God.
(Bible Answer) Greetings in Jesus’ name. Sorry to read about your family. Living in sin goes hand in glove with the HERESY of eternal security. In fact, part of their doctrine is to convince Christians that one must sin continuously and even Paul was the worst of sinners! They even deny being righteous, but insist they are “sinners.” That is one time I have to agree with them about their identity. You are at a MAJOR advantage knowing eternal security is false. Have you read this teaching for new Christians? The Believer’s Conditional Security can help you better understand this subject. GOD BLESS YOU.
(Comment) I hope you do not mind me contacting you like this but the comments on your website seem to indicate that you may not object. I am a committed evangelical Christian who now attends a _______ Church . I used to be an atheist, and then an entrenched militant agnostic who became a believer after the LORD convinced me that the Gospel is true. He effectively re-enacted Pentecost for my benefit! (Acts2:2) I attended an _____ Church at the time which seemed to teach the Scriptures reasonably well, although both Catholic and Calvinistic influences were in evidence. Three years ago I left that church and have remained with the local (church) ever since. The leadership there is divided on the issue of eternal security. The Pastor and some do believe and teach Once Saved, Always Saved.” Others oppose him but not openly. I do not believe in eternal security. I tend to side with you. I have read at least some of the arguments both for and against Eternal Security and with them, the verses that seem to support them. It can be a hard battle of both flesh and spirit to win an unbeliever heading for Hell to Salvation in Christ heading for Heaven. I know, I have been through it! But once we have the Gift, we need to know whether or not we can lose it. If not, why not. If so why? What can we as mortals, who are still imperfect and therefore prone to sin this side of glory, do to protect ourselves from falling under the hammer of God’s wrath? If the teachers of once saved always saved do not want us to hear the truth if it deviates from what they believe, why should they not be open to the possibility they may be wrong and help protect those in their care by being truthful? What have they got to lose by so doing? They would gain immense credibility! Besides, what right have they to indicate that a person justified in God’s sight and eternally secure in Christ? Come to think of it, what right have you to say what you do and contradict them? Thanking you Yours sincerely ( in Christ?)
(Bible Answer) Greetings in Jesus’ name. It was wonderful to read that you no longer disbelieve God’s existence and also reject eternal security. You are at a MAJOR spiritual advantage knowing there is no once saved always saved. You are also right that Christians need to know how they can possibly lose the “gift” and how to keep it, about which the vast majority have NO CLUE! They have no clue because of eternal security doctrine, even though the ways to lose salvation and safeguards for believers are all over the New Testament. What has always made us wonder about eternal security is: WHY should they try so hard to convince others of this doctrine? According to their false belief system, if we ever had a moment of regeneration, we will remain saved even though we reject and oppose eternal security. CAUTION: Have you ever realized for you to attend a congregation where eternal security is taught, even though you reject it to be true, you are actually supporting and helping to keep that heresy going forth by your donations and physical presence? You need to leave that congregation ASAP. This is serious. ...GOD BLESS YOU. Heb. 3:14.
(Comment) Greetings in the grace and peace of the Lord Jesus Christ! I came across your article while doing some research for my ___. You have a good scriptural grasp on what the repercussions of the Hebrew Roots Movement are. It’s a seductive, deceitful movement, and MANY are being led astray.... Blessings to you,
(Bible Answer) Greetings in Jesus’ name. Our day is filled with false doctrines. The Hebrews Root Movement problem seems to be growing like KJV Only and eternal security problems. May God help all Christians stand firm to the end for salvation (Mt. 10:22) .... GOD BLESS YOU. Heb. 3:14.
(Comment) I recently read an article about nine reasons to hate eternal security. I think Dan wrote it. Good job!! I came out of eternal security about 5 years ago. I was a SBC minister at the time. The day I repented of teaching this foul doctrine was a sad day for me. I thank Jesus for delivering me from this doctrine. I have tried to discuss OSAS with those who believe it and for the most part its like talking to a brick wall! I have wrote a pamplet against OSAS and I hope to be used of God to carry people away from OSAS. I think Christians who believe this way need to understand that its not impossible to live for Jesus. God Bless
(Bible Answer) Greetings in Jesus’ name. Thanks for the compliment. It is GREAT to read that you are out of eternal security and are trying to help people deceived by that doctrine. We believe it is the NUMBER ONE HERESY of all heresies. The devil actually has such people teaching this all over the radio and TV. They are also the spokesmen for Christianity, the “bible answer men” etc.! Grace has been turned into a license for immorality and that is, for the most part, the only way people view grace! If you would be willing to give your testimony, either audio or text, for us to place on our web site, it could help some. Please let us know. Do you know about our books refuting eternal security? Remember 1 Tim. 4:16. GOD BLESS YOU.
(Comment) I read your article on eternal security and found it very interesting. I have found there are a number of Christian denominations that don’t seem to think that you need to actually repent of anything. Years ago I read a book entitled _________. The author made it pretty clear that you did need to repent of sins, a position that seems at align with your views and the bible. The idea that one can willingly sin and still expect to get to heaven seems rather foreign to me. Thanks
(Bible Answer) Greetings in Jesus’ name. It is very important for people to know that, included in believing on Jesus is repentance (Acts 10:43 cf. 11:14; Acts 16:31 cf. 20:21). To repent means turning from wickedness. It is also important to know believes is a CONTINUOUS TENSE which is needed to not perish as in John 3:16,18. Once saved always saved (the fifth point of Calvinism) says there are Christian drunks, Christian thieves, Christian adulterers, Christian liars, etc. Such is obviously wrong and DANGEROUS too in light of the Scriptures (Rev. 21:8; 1 Cor. 6:9,10; Eph. 5:5-7; etc.). GOD BLESS YOU.
(Comment) Hi, My name is ______. I was going through your web site and was puzzled by your take on John 10:28. Are you saying that Jesus did not pay for the sin of 'not continuing to follow Jesus'? Do the sheep that stop following Jesus, become goats? Does the “Great Shepherd” lose sheep like a common shepherd would? How do I know that you have not lost your salvation when you seem to be saying; Jesus did not pay for all your sins, and he did not get all he paid for? IN HIS GRIP
(Bible Answer) Greeting in Jesus’ name. You have been indoctrinated into the heresy of once saved always saved to such a degree, I have to doubt if you can be helped by the truth even if you would read it. I will try though for your sake. Are you teachable? Jesus died for ALL sins. Not continuing to follow Jesus is NOT a sin anymore than disobeying the command to enter through the narrow gate and thereby going to hell is a sin. For one to not continue to follow Jesus is a description (or statement of fact) of his present condition the same as to say he fell away, died spiritually, lost his salvation, etc. Stop trying to make allowances for wickedness. You are hurting yourself and those you influence. If Jesus’ sheep “follow” Jesus (John 10:27), then one must follow Jesus to be his sheep. That is simple and easy to understand. It is just like the church SUBMITS to Christ (Eph. 5:24). If one is not submitting to Christ, then he is not part of the church. God has given man free will to obey or disobey, even after initial salvation. Hence, there are many warnings written to the righteous about dying spiritually by turning to evil. Also ponder John 17:12. To reject the heresy of eternal security doesn’t mean we disbelieve Jesus died for all of our sins. Someone has misrepresented our Christian beliefs. How can you (as an eternal security proponent) think there are Christians who are drunks, adulterers, thieves, murderers, witches, etc. when the Bible is clear that there are NOT (1 Cor. 6:9,10; Rev. 21:8). Remember 1 Cor. 15:2.
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